Monday, August 20, 2012
In my life, I have almost always been willing to allow suffering for myself. That has been inclusive of suffering for people better off than me. The day that started ending was when I noticed that my suffering did not just fall upon me, but it fell upon my children. It is one thing to suffer for your ideal. It is another thing to have those who depend upon you suffer for your ideal. This comes to mind reading this thread. The absolute fear of bringing another child into this world to join in suffering is quite visible in some of the comments. Of course, the vast, vast majority of people using birth control (be it NFP otherwise) are doing so for economic reasons. Of that group, a large number are well off or at least moderately well off. However, there are more people for whom bringing a child into this world would mean asking him to suffer. These are people like myself who look almost idyllically at the people able to support large families. I had never built my value system around the acquisition of material goods. Were it not for kids, I would likely be content with a certain amount of poverty. I am not content to allow them to suffer for my ideals, and if the church wishes to be insistent on the matter than she needs to make provision. Asking the weakest of her followers to suffer for her ideals is simply cruel.